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๐ŸŒธใ€ไบบ็”Ÿใ€‘ใƒˆใƒฉใ‚ฆใƒžใ‚’ๆŠฑใˆใฆใ„ใ‚‹ไบบใธใƒปใƒปใƒปใƒกใƒƒใ‚ปใƒผใ‚ธ

Messages to some who are struggling with their traumatic memories.

 

ใ€Œใƒˆใƒฉใ‚ฆใƒžใ€ใจใฏใ€ๆทฑใ่‹ฆใ—ใ‚ใ‚‹ใ‚‚ใฎใ‚„ๅฟƒใ‚’ไนฑใ™ใ‚‚ใฎใซๅๅฟœใ—ใฆใ—ใพใ†ใ“ใจใ ใจๆ€ใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚ๅœงๅ€’็š„ใซ็„กๆฐ—ๅŠ›ใซใชใฃใŸใ‚Šใ€ๅธŒๆœ›ใ‚’ๅคฑใฃใŸใ‚Šใ€่‡ชๅฐŠๅฟƒใŒ็„กใใชใฃใŸใ‚Šใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚

โ€œTraumaโ€ can be defined as a response to a deeply distressing or disturbing event that overwhelms a personโ€™s ability to cope, causes feelings of hopelessness, and diminishes their sense of self and their ability to feel a full range of emotions and experiences.

 

ใƒˆใƒฉใ‚ฆใƒžใซใชใ‚‹ๅŽŸๅ› ใฏใ•ใพใ–ใพใงใ™ใ€‚

ไพ‹ใˆใฐไบบ้–“้–ขไฟ‚ใ€่‡ช็„ถ็ฝๅฎณใ€ใใฎไป–่‹ฆใ—ใ„ๅ‡บๆฅไบ‹ใชใฉใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€‚ใ“ใฎไธญใง็‰นใซใ€Œ่‹ฆใ—ใ„ๅ‡บๆฅไบ‹ใ€ใซใฏๅฎถๅบญๅ†…ๆšดๅŠ›ใ€ใƒฌใ‚คใƒ—ใ€ๆ„›ใ™ใ‚‹ใ‚‚ใฎใฎ็ช็„ถใฎๆญปใ€ไบˆๆƒณๅค–ใฎไบ‹ๆ•…ใ‚„ใใฎไป–็”Ÿใ˜ใ‚‹ใ‚‚ใฎใชใฉใŒๆŒ™ใ’ใ‚‰ใ‚Œใพใ™ใƒปใƒปใƒป

It is led by so many factors, such as human interaction, natural disasters, or any distressing events. Such distressing events may be in a form of domestic violence, rape, sudden loss of a loved one, unforeseen accidents or other ways of nature.

 

ใ‚ใ„ใซใใƒปใƒปใƒปใ“ใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใชๆทฑๅˆปใง้‡ๅบฆใฎใƒˆใƒฉใ‚ฆใƒžใ‚’ๆŒใคไบบใซๅฏพใ—ใฆใฏใ€็งใฎ็ตŒ้จ“ใ‚„็Ÿฅ่ญ˜ใฏๅŠใณใพใ›ใ‚“ใฎใงใŠๅŠ›ใซใฏใชใ‚Œใชใ„ใฎใงใ™ใŒใ€ไพ‹ใˆใฐๅคฑๆ‹ใจใ‹ใ€ใƒŸใ‚นใ—ใŸใ“ใจใจใ‹ใ€ๅคงไบ‹ใชใ‚‚ใฎใ‚’ใ†ใฃใ‹ใ‚Šๅคฑใใ—ใŸใชใฉใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใซใ€ๅฅฝใพใ—ใใชใ„ๆ€ใ„ๅ‡บใซๆ‚ฉใฟใ€ใƒˆใƒฉใ‚ฆใƒžใซใชใ‚Šใใ†ใชไบบใซๅฏพใ—ใฆใฏใ€ๅฐ‘ใ—ๅŠ›ใซใชใ‚Œใ‚‹ใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใพใ›ใ‚“ใ€‚

Iโ€™m out of the depth for those who are suffering from irreversible and serious traumas. But in my own little way, I may be able to extend help to those who are struggling with unpleasant memories such as heartbreak, rejection, mistakes and loss and on the verge of slipping into the traumatic zone.

 

ไพ‹ใˆใฐใ€ใ‚‚ใ†ไฝ•ๅนดใ‚‚ๅ‰ใซไป˜ใๅˆใฃใŸๅ…ƒใ‚ซใƒฌใซๅฏพใ—ใฆใ€ใšใฃใจใƒˆใƒฉใ‚ฆใƒžใ‚’ๆŠฑใˆใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใจใ‹ใ€‚

For example, some people might have lingering traumatic feelings towards men whom they dated in the past, even if it happened a very long time ago.

 

ไป–ใซใฏใ€ไป•ไบ‹ใงใจใ‚“ใงใ‚‚ใชใ„ใƒŸใ‚นใ‚’ใ‚„ใ‚‰ใ‹ใ—ใ€ๆฅใ‚’ใ‹ใ„ใฆ่‡ชๅˆ†ใŒไฟกใ˜ใ‚‰ใ‚ŒใชใใชใฃใŸใ“ใจใจใ‹ใ€‚

Or in some, those who have committed grave mistakes at work resulting in humiliation and questioning your selfโ€™s ability.

 

ใ‚‚ใ—ใใฏใ€่ฉๆฌบใงใŠ้‡‘ใ‚’้จ™ใ•ใ‚ŒใŸใ‚Šใ€่ชคใฃใŸๅˆคๆ–ญใง็„ก้ง„ใซใŠ้‡‘ใ‚’ไฝฟใฃใฆใ—ใพใฃใŸใ‚Šใ€ใ‚ฎใƒฃใƒณใƒ–ใƒซใงไฝฟใฃใฆใ—ใพใฃใŸใ‚Šใ€ๅ˜ใซ่‡ชๅทฑ็ฎก็†ใงใใชใ‹ใฃใŸใŸใ‚ๅคง้‡‘ใ‚’ๅคฑใฃใฆใ—ใพใฃใŸใ“ใจใจใ‹ใ€‚

Or in some cases, some have lost a sum of money due to scamming, wrong decisions such as overspending, gambling or simply out of control finances.

 

ใใฃใจๅคšใใฎไบบใฏใ“ใ†่จ€ใ†ใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€‚ใ€Œๆ™‚้–“ใŒ่งฃๆฑบใ—ใฆใใ‚Œใ‚‹ใ‚ˆใ€ใจใ‹ใ€Œๆ™‚้–“ใŒ็ตŒใฆใฐไน—ใ‚Š่ถŠใˆใ‚‰ใ‚Œใ‚‹ใ‚ˆใ€ใจใ‹ใ€‚ใงใ‚‚ๆœฌๅฝ“ใซใใ†ใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ‹ใ€‚

A lot of people might say that โ€œtime will help youโ€ or โ€œyouโ€™ll get through this in timeโ€. But I donโ€™t think so.

 

็งใฏใใ†ใฏๆ€ใ‚ใชใ„ใฎใงใ™ใ€‚ใใ‚‚ใใ‚‚ใ€Œๆ™‚้–“ใ€ใฏ็ฅžๆง˜ใงใ‚‚ใชใ„ใงใ™ใ—ใ€่งฃๆฑบๆณ•ใ‚’ๆ•™ใˆใฆใใ‚Œใ‚‹ใ‚ใ‘ใงใ‚‚ใชใ„ใงใ™ใ—ใ€้€ƒใ’้“ใ‚’็”จๆ„ใ—ใฆใใ‚Œใ‚‹ใ‚ใ‘ใงใ‚‚ใชใ„ใฎใงใ™ใ€‚

โ€œTimeโ€ is not God, nor does it give any solutions on how to get open it or open doors to run away from it as far as possible.

 

ไป–ใซใ‚‚ใ€ใ“ใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใซ่จ€ใ†ไบบใ‚‚ใ„ใ‚‹ใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€‚ใ€ŒๅคงไบบใซใชใฃใŸใ‚‰ใ€ใ ใ‚“ใ ใ‚“ๅฟ˜ใ‚Œใฆใ„ใใ‚ˆใ€ใฃใฆใ€‚

ใงใ‚‚้€†ใซ่ณชๅ•ใ—ใŸใ„ใงใ™ใ€‚ใ˜ใ‚ƒใ‚ใฉใ†ใ‚„ใฃใŸใ‚‰ๅฟ˜ใ‚Œใ‚‹ใฎ๏ผŸ

Others might say, โ€œas you grow or mature, youโ€™ll eventually forget about it.โ€ But they canโ€™t tell us how to grow, can they?

 

ไบบใฏใฟใช่‡ชๅˆ†ใฎใƒšใƒผใ‚นใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใ€ๆˆ้•ทใ™ใ‚‹ๆ–นๆณ•ใ‚‚ไบบใใ‚Œใžใ‚Œใงใ™ใ€‚ๆฎ‹ๅฟตใชใŒใ‚‰ใ€ใ“ใ‚Œใ‚‰ใฎใ‚ขใƒ‰ใƒใ‚คใ‚นใฏ้žๅธธใซๆŠฝ่ฑก็š„ใงใ€ๅ…ทไฝ“ๅŒ–ใฏ้›ฃใ—ใ„ใงใ™ใญใ€‚

Everyone has his or her own pace, as well as methods that stimulate growth and maturity. And, sadly, this is quite abstract, and unquantifiable.

 

ใ“ใ†ใ„ใ†็งใ‚‚็ตŒ้จ“ใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚้ ๏ฝžใ„้ŽๅŽปใงใ™ใŒใƒปใƒปใƒปใชใ‹ใชใ‹ๆถˆใˆใชใ„ๅซŒใช่จ˜ๆ†ถใ‚‚ใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚ใ‚‚ใ†ไฝ•ๅๅนดใ‚‚ๅ‰ใงใ™ใŒๅฝ“ๆ™‚ไป˜ใๅˆใฃใฆใ„ใŸใƒ€ใƒก็”ทใ‚’ๆ€ใ„ๅ‡บใ™ใจใ€ใฉใ†ใ‚‚ไปŠใงใ‚‚้ฌฑใฃใฝใใชใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚ใŸใพใซใงใ™ใŒใ€ๅคขใงใใฎไบบใ‚’ๆฎบใใ†ใจใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚‚ใƒปใƒปใƒปww

In my personal experience, so do I. I also have lingering traumatic memories that I incurred a long time ago. Sometimes, I still feel depressed whenever I remember very hopeless men I went out with, even if it was decades ago. Sometimes, I dream at night where I was killing them in my dream. Haha

 

ไป•ไบ‹ใงใ‚‚ๆœชใ ใซๅฟ˜ใ‚Œใ‚‰ใ‚Œใชใ„ๆœ€ๆ‚ชใช็ตŒ้จ“ใ‚‚ใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚20ๅนดๅ‰ใซใƒ—ใƒฌใ‚ผใƒณใงๅคงๅคฑๆ•—ใ—ใŸใ“ใจใงใ™ใ€‚ไปŠใงใ‚‚้ฎฎๆ˜Žใซ่ฆšใˆใฆใ„ใฆใ€ๆ€ใ„ๅ‡บใ™ใจใŸใ„ใฆใ„่‡ชๅทฑๅซŒๆ‚ชใซ้™ฅใ‚Šใพใ™ใญใ€‚่‡ชๅˆ†ใฎๆœช็†Ÿใ•ใจใ€ใจใ‚“ใกใ‚“ใ‹ใ‚“ใชใƒ—ใƒฌใ‚ผใƒณใซไปŠใงใ‚‚ๅฐ‘ใ—ๆฅใšใ‹ใ—ใ„ๆฐ—ใŒใ—ใพใ™ใ€‚

When it comes to work, I still canโ€™t get over this very bad experience in making a presentation 20 years ago. I still remember all the details vividly, which still brings upon self-humiliation whenever I think about it. Iโ€™m still shameful of my immature and stupid presentation.

 

ใƒˆใƒฉใ‚ฆใƒžใซใชใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹่จ˜ๆ†ถใฏไป–ใซใ‚‚ใ„ใ‚ใ„ใ‚ใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚ไปŠใงใ‚‚ใตใจๆ€ใ„ๅ‡บใ™ใจใ€ใ€Œใ‚ใƒผใƒปใƒปใƒปใ€ใจใ‹ใญใ€‚ใงใ‚‚ใ€ไธญใซใฏๅ…‹ๆœใ—ใŸใ“ใจใ‚‚ใ‚ใ‚‹ใ‚“ใงใ™ใ‚ˆใ€‚ใงใ™ใ‹ใ‚‰ใ“ใฎๅ…‹ๆœใ—ใŸ็ตŒ้จ“ใŒไฝ•ใ‹ใŠๅฝนใซ็ซ‹ใฆใ‚‹ใ‹ใชใจๆ€ใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚

These are some of my traumatic memories. They still linger, but there are those that I was able to get over from. I think this can be somewhat helpful to you.

 

็งใฎๅคฑๆ‹ใŒใฉใ‚Œใปใฉ้…ทใใฆใ‚‚ใ€ใพใŸใฏไป•ไบ‹ใงใฎใƒŸใ‚นใŒใฉใ‚Œใปใฉๆƒ…ใ‘ใชใใฆใ‚‚ใ€ไป–ใฎ่ชฐใ‹ใซ็ฌ‘ใ„่ฉฑใจใ—ใฆ่ฉฑใ™ใ“ใจใŒใงใใฆ็ฌ‘ใฃใฆใ‚‚ใ‚‰ใˆใŸๆ™‚ใ€ใƒˆใƒฉใ‚ฆใƒžใฏใ ใ‚“ใ ใ‚“ใจ็„กใใชใฃใฆใใŸใ‚“ใงใ™๏ผ

No matter how bad my private heartbreak experiences are, or how stupid and shameful my work mistakes are, whenever I could tell it to someone as a funny story, can share it with a light mood, or if itโ€™s something we can all laugh together about, my traumatic feelings towards them diminish, and I totally forget about it. And thinking about it, it isnโ€™t traumatic anymore.

 

ๆœ€ใ‚‚ใƒˆใƒฉใ‚ฆใƒžใ‚’ๅ…‹ๆœใ—ใŸๆ–นๆณ•ใฏใ€็งใฎๆƒ…ใ‘ใชใ„ๅคฑๆ•—่ซ‡ใ‚„ๆœ€ๆ‚ชใช็ตŒ้จ“่ฉฑใŒ่ชฐใ‹ใฎๅฝนใซ็ซ‹ใฃใŸๆ™‚ใงใ™ใ€‚ใคใพใ‚Šใ€่ชฐใ‹ใ‚’ๅ‹‡ๆฐ—ใฅใ‘ใŸใ‚Šใ€ๅ‰ใซ้€ฒใ‚€ใŸใ‚ใซ่ƒŒไธญใ‚’ๆŠผใ›ใŸใ‚Šใ—ใŸๆ™‚ใ€็งใฎๅฟƒใฎๅ•้กŒใฏ180ๅบฆๅค‰ใ‚ใ‚Šใ€ๅ˜ใชใ‚‹็ฌ‘ใ„่ฉฑใ€ใฒใ„ใฆใฏใ‚„ใฃใกใ‚ƒใ„ใ‘ใชใ„่‰ฏใ„ใŠๆ‰‹ๆœฌใจใชใฃใŸใฎใงใ™ใ€‚

Most especially when my stupid mistakes or bad experiences serve helpful to someone, meaning, my stories motivated and encouraged them to move forward, my mental problems take a 180-degree turn and transform into just a funny, educational story to serve as a good example to people of what not to be or what not to do.

 

ใ‚‚ใกใ‚ใ‚“ใ€ๅคฑๆ‹ใซใ—ใฆใ‚‚ไป•ไบ‹ใงใฎๅคฑๆ•—ใซใ—ใฆใ‚‚ใ€ใ‚ใพใ‚Šใซใ‚‚ๆƒ…ใ‘ใชใ•ใ™ใŽใฆใ€ใพใ ่ฉฑใ™ๅ‹‡ๆฐ—ใŒใชใ„ใ‚‚ใฎใ ใฃใฆใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใ€‚ใ“ใฎๅ ดๅˆใ€ใ“ใ‚Œใ‹ใ‚‰ๅ…ˆใ‚‚ๆ€ใ„ๅ‡บใ™ใจๅฟ…ใšใพใ ใƒˆใƒฉใ‚ฆใƒžใ‚’ๆŠฑใˆใฆใ„ใใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใญใ€‚

When it comes to failed romantic experiences or work-related mistakes, there are still some experiences which Iโ€™m not ready to share with anyone as they are still too stupid or too embarrassing to get out. In this case, I would still feel the trauma whenever I think about it.

 

ใงใ‚‚ใ€ๅฟƒ้…ใชใ„ใงใ™ใ‚ˆใ€‚ๅฟƒ็†็š„ใชใ‚‚ใฎใ‚„ใƒˆใƒฉใ‚ฆใƒžใฃใฆใ€็ตๅฑ€ใฏๅคงไบ‹ใชใ‚‚ใฎใ‚’ๆ•™ใˆใฆใใ‚Œใ‚‹ใจใ‹ใ€็Ÿฅๆตใ‚’ๆŽˆใ‘ใฆใใ‚Œใ‚‹ๆ„ๅ‘ณใŒใ‚ใ‚‹ใ‹ใ‚‰ใงใ™ใ€‚ใ€Œใ“ใ†ใ„ใ†ใ‚ฟใ‚คใƒ—ใฎไบบใซ่ฟ‘ใฅใ„ใŸใ‚‰ใƒ€ใƒกใ‚ˆใ€ใจใ‹ใ€Œไป•ไบ‹ใงใ‚„ใ‚‰ใ‹ใ—ใŸใจใ‚“ใงใ‚‚ใชใ„ใ“ใจใ‚’ๅฟ˜ใ‚ŒใŸใ‚‰ใƒ€ใƒกใ˜ใ‚ƒใชใ„ใ‹ใ€ใ“ใ†ใ„ใ†ใƒกใƒƒใ‚ปใƒผใ‚ธใŒใ€ไบŒๅบฆใจ่ตทใ“ใ•ใชใ„ใ‚ˆใ†ใซๅŠฉใ‘ใฆใใ‚Œใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ‚“ใงใ™ใ€‚

But I donโ€™t worry at all because I believe that mental or traumatic things can tell us something important or impart some kind of wisdom to us. Learnings such as, โ€œdonโ€™t get closer to these types of peopleโ€ or โ€œdonโ€™t forget youโ€™ve made such an incredible mistake at workโ€ help us not to repeat the same mistakes over and over again.

 

ใ•ใฆใ€ใ‚‚ใฃใจๅคงไบ‹ใชใ“ใจใ‚’ๆ›ธใใพใ™ใญใ€‚ใ€Œใƒˆใƒฉใ‚ฆใƒžใ‚’ๆŠฑใˆใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ€ใจ่จ€ใ†ใ“ใจใฏใ€ใใฎไบ‹ๆ…‹ใฏใ™ใงใซ้ŽๅŽปใฎใ“ใจใงใ€ไปŠ็พๅœจใฏ้•ใ†ใ‚“ใงใ™ใ‚ˆใญใ€‚ไปŠใฎ็ง็”Ÿๆดปใซใฏใƒปใƒปใƒปๅญ˜ๅœจใ—ใชใ„ใงใ™ใ‚ˆใญใ€‚

And this is whatโ€™s more important, โ€œHaving traumaโ€ means itโ€™s all written in the past. Itโ€™s something that youโ€™ve already been through and non-existent in our present lives.ย 

 

ใงใ‚‚้ŽๅŽปใฎ่‡ชๅˆ†ใซๅฏพใ—ใฆใ€ŒๅพŒๆ‚”ใ€ใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใ€ใ€Œ้–“้•ใฃใŸใ€ใ“ใจใ‚’่ชใ‚ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ‹ใ‚‰ใ€ใพใ ๅฟƒใซๆŠฑใˆใ“ใ‚“ใงใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚

ใงใ‚‚ใใ‚ŒใŒๅ…‹ๆœใ™ใ‚‹ใŸใ‚ใฎๆœ€ๅˆใฎไธ€ๆญฉใชใ‚“ใงใ™ใ€‚ๅพŒๆ‚”ใ—ใ€่‡ชๅˆ†ใฎ้Žใกใ‚’ๅ—ใ‘ๅ…ฅใ‚Œใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒใ“ใ‚Œใ‹ใ‚‰ใฎไบบ็”Ÿใฎ่ธใฟ็Ÿณใจใชใ‚‹ใ‚“ใงใ™ใ€‚

As long as you have the trauma in your mind, you must have regretted or admitted your mistakes, mustnโ€™t you? This is the first step. Regretting and admitting your mistakes is an important stepping stone in our personal journey.

 

ใใฎใƒˆใƒฉใ‚ฆใƒžใŒ็‰นๅฎšใฎไบบใ‚„ไบบ้–“้–ขไฟ‚ใซๅฏพใ—ใฆใงใ—ใŸใ‚‰ใ€ๆ˜ฏ้ž่ฆšใˆใฆใ„ใฆๆฌฒใ—ใ„ใฎใงใ™ใŒใ€ไปŠใ‚ใชใŸใซใจใฃใฆใ‚ดใƒŸๅŒ็„ถใฎไบบใ‹ใ‚‰ๅŽปใฃใฆใ„ใŸใ‚Š้›ขใ‚Œใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใ‚ใ‘ใงใ™ใ‹ใ‚‰ใ€ๅนธใ›ใชใฏใšใชใ‚“ใงใ™ใ€‚ใใฎไบบใจๅฑ…ใŸใฎใฏ้ŽๅŽปใงใ‚ใฃใฆใ€ไปŠใงใฏใชใ„ใ€‚ไปŠใ‚ใ‚‹ใฎใฏๅ˜ใชใ‚‹ใใฎ่‹ฆใ„่จ˜ๆ†ถใ ใ‘ใ€‚

When talking about people and human relationships, you must be happy also that theyโ€™re all way behind us. This means, youโ€™ve already left or have stayed away from these rubbish people. All the time you were with him is all in the past, not now. What you have is just a bitter memory.

 

ๆฏŽๆ—ฅๆ€ใ„ๅ‡บใ—ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใจๅœฐ็„ใซใ„ใ‚‹ใ‹ใฎใ‚ˆใ†ใซๆ„Ÿใ˜ใ‚‹ใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใพใ›ใ‚“ใƒปใƒปใƒปใงใ‚‚ใ‚‚ใ†ไปŠใฏใพใ‚ใ‚Šใซใใ‚“ใชไบบใฏใ„ใชใ„ใฎใชใ‚‰ใ€ใใฎๆ€ใ„ๅ‡บใซใฏใ€ใ€Œ่ฆšใˆใฆใ„ใ‚‹ไพกๅ€คใฏใชใ„ใ€ใฎใงใ™ใ€‚

It might be as bad as having memories of living in hell in your everyday life. But itโ€™s worth rejoicing that none of them exist around you at the moment.

 

ใพใŸใ€ใใฎใƒˆใƒฉใ‚ฆใƒžใŒไป•ไบ‹ใซ้–ขใ—ใฆใงใ—ใŸใ‚‰ใ€้ŽๅŽปใซๅคฑๆœ›ใ—ใŸๅ‡บๆฅไบ‹ใŒใ‚ใฃใŸใจใ—ใฆใ€้ŽๅŽปใฎ่‡ชๅˆ†ใซๅฏพใ—ใฆๆ†คใ‚Šใ‚’ๆ„Ÿใ˜ใฆใ„ใŸใ‚Šๆฅใšใ‹ใ—ใ„ใจๆ€ใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹ใชใ‚‰ใ€ใใ‚Œใฏใ‚ใชใŸใŒๅคงไบบใซใชใฃใŸใ€ๆˆ้•ทใ—ใŸใจใ„ใ†ใ“ใจใงใ™ใ€‚

ใ‚‚ใฃใจไป•ไบ‹ใŒๅ‡บๆฅใฆ็ซ‹ๆดพใชๅคงไบบใซใชใฃใŸใจใ„ใ†ใ“ใจใงใ™ใ‚ˆใ€‚

Now when it comes to work, when you think about a disappointing event at work, if you feel upset and ashamed with the past you, this means you have outgrown your old version, and now blossomed into a more mature individual.

 

ใ‚‚ใ—ใ„ใคใ‹ใ€ๆฅฝใ—ใ„ๅฃ่ชฟใ‚„็ฌ‘ใ„่ฉฑใจใ—ใฆใ€ใใฎๆƒ…ใ‘ใชใใฆๆฅใšใ‹ใ—ใ„็ตŒ้จ“่ฉฑใ‚’่ชฐใ‹ใซ่ฉฑใ›ใ‚‹ๆ™‚ๆœŸใŒใใŸใ‚‰ใ€ใใ‚ŒใŒใ‚ใชใŸ่‡ช่บซๆˆ้•ทใ—ใŸใ“ใจใ‚’่กจใ—ใฆใใ‚Œใพใ™ใ‚ˆใ€‚

When the time comes and you are now ready to share your stupid and embarrassing experiences to someone in a light mood or as a funny story, it is a manifestation of your personal growth.

 

ใใ—ใฆใใ†้ ใใชใ„ๆ™‚ๆœŸใซใ€ใƒˆใƒฉใ‚ฆใƒžใจใชใฃใŸ็ตŒ้จ“ใ‚’ๅฟ˜ใ‚Œใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒใงใใ‚‹ใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€‚ใใ—ใฆใ€ใƒˆใƒฉใ‚ฆใƒžใŒ่ชฐใ‹ใ‚’ๅŠฑใพใ™็ตŒ้จ“่ฉฑใซๅค‰ใ‚ใ‚‹ใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€‚

And you will soon forget the traumatic experience and turn it into an inspirational story.

 

ไธŠ่จ˜ใซๆ›ธใ‹ใ›ใฆใ„ใŸใ ใ„ใŸใ“ใฎใƒกใƒƒใ‚ปใƒผใ‚ธใŒใ€ใฉใ†ใ‹่‡ชๅˆ†ใฎ้ŽๅŽปใซใƒˆใƒฉใ‚ฆใƒžใ‚’ๆ„Ÿใ˜ใฆใ„ใ‚‹ไบบใซใƒปใƒปใƒปๅฐ‘ใ—ใงใ‚‚ใŠๅฝนใซ็ซ‹ใฆใพใ™ใ‚ˆใ†ใซใƒปใƒปใƒป

I hope the message conveyed above is somewhat helpful to those who feel trauma with their past.

 

๏ผˆ่ฟฝ่จ˜๏ผšadditional message๏ผ‰

ใ™ในใฆใฎใ“ใจใซๅฏพใ—ใฆ่จ€ใˆใ‚‹ใจๆ€ใ†ใฎใงใ™ใŒใ€็ง็”Ÿๆดปใงใ‚‚ไป•ไบ‹ใงใ‚‚ใ€่ชฐใ‹ใŒใ‚ใชใŸใซๆ‰‹ใ‚’ๅทฎใ—ไผธในใฆใใŸใฏใšใชใ‚“ใงใ™ใ€‚็ขบใ‹ใซใ‚ใ‚‹ใฏใšใงใ™ใ€‚ใ‚‚ใกใ‚ใ‚“ใ€็งใ‚‚ๅŠฉใ‘ใ‚‰ใ‚Œใฆใใพใ—ใŸใ€‚ไปŠใงใ‚‚้ŽๅŽปใฎใƒˆใƒฉใ‚ฆใƒžใซๅ›šใ‚ใ‚Œใฆใ„ใŸใจใ—ใฆใ‚‚ใ€ใใฎๅฝ“ๆ™‚่ชฐใ‹ใŒ็ฒพ็ฅž็š„ใซๆ”ฏใˆใฆใใ‚ŒใŸใ“ใจใŒใ‚ใ‚‹ใฏใšใงใ™ใ€‚

ๆ‹ไบบใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใชใ„ใ—ใ€ๅ‹้”ใ‹ใ‚‚ใ—ใ‚Œใชใ„ใ—ใ€่ฆชๅ‹ใ‚„ๅฎถๆ—ใชใฉใƒปใƒปใƒปใใฃใจ่ชฐใ‹ๅŠฉใ‘ใฆใใ‚ŒใŸใฏใšใงใ™ใ€‚

I think the following applies to everything, all aspects of our life. Whether it is your private or professional life, someone must have extended a helping hand to you at some point. It definitely happened to you, and so did I. Even though you still have a lingering traumatic memory, you must have had someone who was able to positively influence you mentally. It may be a partner, a friend, a mentor or a family member.

 

ใƒˆใƒฉใ‚ฆใƒžใŒๆœ€่ฟ‘ใฎๅ‡บๆฅไบ‹ใงใ‚‚ใ€ใšใ„ใถใ‚“ๅ‰ใฎใ“ใจใงใ‚‚ใ€็—›ใพใ—ใๅฟƒใ‹ใ‚‰่‹ฆใ—ใ‚“ใ ใใฎ้ŽๅŽปใ‚’ๆ€ใ„ๅ‡บใ—ใฆใ—ใพใฃใŸๆ™‚ใ€ๅŠฉใ‘ใฆใใ‚ŒใŸไบบใซๆ„Ÿ่ฌใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚’ๆ€ใ„ๅ‡บใ—ใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใญใ€‚ใใ‚ŒใŒใŸใจใˆไบ›็ดฐใชใ“ใจใงใ‚ใฃใฆใ‚‚ใƒปใƒปใƒปใงใ™ใ€‚ๅคงๅฐใฏ้–ขไฟ‚ใชใ„ใงใ™ใ€‚

Whenever you remember a tragic or deeply distracting past, whether it happened just recently or decades ago, don’t forget to appreciate other people’s help, no matter how big or small it is.

 

ใŠไธ–่ฉฑใซใชใฃใŸไบบใซใ‚‚ใ†ไผšใˆใชใ„็Šถๆณใงใ‚ใ‚Œใฐใ€ๅฟƒใฎไธญใงใ€Œๅฝ“ๆ™‚ๅŠฉใ‘ใฆใใ‚Œใฆใ€ใ‚ใ‚ŠใŒใจใ†ใ€ใจๆ€ใ†ใ ใ‘ใงใ€ใ„ใ„ใ‚“ใงใ™ใ€‚ใใฃใจๅ‰ๅ‘ใใซใชใฃใฆใใพใ™ใ‚ˆใ€็ฒพ็ฅž็š„ใซใ€‚ใใ‚ŒใซๅฟƒใŒๆธฉใ‹ใใชใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ใ‹๏ผŸใ„ใšใ‚Œใ€ๅฐ‘ใ—ใšใค่‚ฏๅฎš็š„ใชๆ€่€ƒใซใชใ‚Šใ€ๅ‰ใซ้€ฒใ‚ใ‚‹ใ‚ˆใ†ใซใชใ‚‹ใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ†

Even if you can’t meet them anymore, just being thankful to them will bring upon positive impacts on your life. Having this kind of behavior will positively affect you mentally, and keep your heart warm. It will gradually turn your perspectives around into something more positive and let you move forward little by little.

 

ใใฎใŠใžใพใ—ใ„้ŽๅŽปใ‚’ๅฟ˜ใ‚Œใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒๅคงไบ‹ใƒปใƒปใƒปใงใฏใชใ„ใจๆ€ใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚็ฒพ็ฅž็š„ใซๆ”ฏใˆใจใชใฃใฆใใ‚ŒใŸไบบใซๆ„Ÿ่ฌใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ“ใใ€ๅคงไบ‹ใงใ™ใ€‚ใใ‚Œใซๆ„Ÿ่ฌใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใง่‡ช่บซใฎ้‹ๆฐ—ใŒไธŠใŒใ‚‹ใจใ‹ใ€ๆˆๅŠŸใฎๅฏ่ƒฝๆ€งใŒ้ซ˜ใพใ‚‹ใ“ใจใ‚‚ใ‚ใ‚‹ใงใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ€‚

What’s important is not how to forget the dreadful past, but instead how to appreciate someone who has brought upon a good effect on your mind. This is already helpful in increasing your luck and your odds to success.

 

ไฝ•ใ‚ˆใ‚Šใ€ใฉใ‚“ใฉใ‚“ๆˆ้•ทใ—ไปŠใ‚ˆใ‚Š็ด ๆ™ดใ‚‰ใ—ใ„่‡ชๅˆ†ใซใชใ‚Œใ‚‹ใ‚‚ใฎใงใ™ใ€‚ใ‚‚ใฃใจๅนธใ›ใซใชใฃใฆใ€ๆบ€่ถณใฎใ„ใไบบ็”Ÿใ‚’้€ใฃใฆใใ ใ•ใ„ใญใ€‚

More than anything else, you can grow and progress to become a better version of yourself, which eventually leads to more greater happiness and life satisfaction.

 

๏ฝžๅ˜่ชž๏ฝž

ใƒปhuman interaction๏ผšๅฏพไบบ้–ขไฟ‚ใ€ไบคๆตใชใฉ

ใƒปa response to๏ผš๏ฝžใซๅฏพใ™ใ‚‹ๅๅฟœ

ใƒปdistress ใ€distrรฉsใ€‘ไป–ๅ‹•่ฉž๏ผš๏ฝžใ‚’่‹ฆใ—ใ‚ใ‚‹

ใƒปdiminishใ€dษ™mรญniสƒใ€‘ไป–ๅ‹•่ฉž๏ผš๏ฝžใ‚’ๆธ›ใ‚‰ใ™ใ€ๅผฑใ‚‰ใ›ใ‚‹ใชใฉ

ใƒปsense of self: ่‡ชๅฐŠๅฟƒใ€่‡ชๅˆ†ใ‚‰ใ—ใ•ใ€่‡ชๅทฑๆ„่ญ˜

ใƒปbe led by๏ผš๏ฝžใซๅฐŽใ‹ใ‚Œใ‚‹

โ€ป”it is led by so many factors”๏ผใƒˆใƒฉใ‚ฆใƒžใฏๅคšใใฎๅŽŸๅ› ใซๅฐŽใ‹ใ‚Œใ‚‹๏ผˆ็›ด่จณ๏ผ‰๏ผๅคšใใฎๅŽŸๅ› ใซใ‚ˆใฃใฆๅผ•ใ่ตทใ“ใ•ใ‚Œใ‚‹

ใ“ใ‚Œใ‚’ใ€Œใƒˆใƒฉใ‚ฆใƒžใซใชใ‚‹ๅŽŸๅ› ใฏใ•ใพใ–ใพใงใ™ใ€ใจ่จณใ—ใพใ—ใŸใ€‚

ใƒปin the form of๏ผš๏ฝžใฎๅฝขใง

ใƒปout of the depth๏ผš่ƒฝๅŠ›ใŒๅŠใฐใชใ„ใ€็ตŒ้จ“ใ‚„็Ÿฅ่ญ˜ใŒ่ถณใ‚Šใชใ„ใ€

ใƒปin my own way๏ผš่‡ชๅˆ†ใชใ‚Šใซใ€ใ‚ใŸใ—ใชใ‚Šใซ

โ€ปใ“ใ“ใงใฏ”little“ใ‚’ๅŠ ใˆใพใ—ใŸใŒใ€โ€bigโ€ใชใฉใใฎไป–ใฎๅฝขๅฎน่ฉžใ‚’ไฝฟใฃใฆๅพฎๅฆ™ใชใƒ‹ใƒฅใ‚ขใƒณใ‚นใ‚’ไผใˆใ‚‹ใฎใ‚‚OKใงใ™๏ผ

ใƒปon the verge of๏ผšไปŠใซใ‚‚๏ฝžใ—ใ‚ˆใ†ใจใ—ใฆใ€๏ฝžใฎๅฏธๅ‰ใงใ€๏ฝžใฎ้–“้š›ใงใชใฉ

โ€ป โ€œbe about toโ€ใจใ‚‚่จ€ใ„ๆ›ใˆใ‚‰ใ‚Œใพใ™ใ€‚

ใƒปlingeringใ€หˆlษชล‹gษ™rษชล‹ใ€‘ๅฝขๅฎน่ฉž=lasting a long timeใ€€ใชใ‹ใชใ‹ๆถˆใˆใชใ„

ใƒปin some= in some cases

ใƒปgraveใ€grรฉษชvใ€‘ๅฝขๅฎน่ฉž๏ผš่ฒฌไปปใ‚„ๅ•้กŒใชใฉใŒ้‡ๅคงใชใ€้‡่ฆใช

ใƒปhumilitationใ€hjuหmiฬ€lieฬiสƒษ™nใ€‘ไธๅฏ็ฎ—ๅ่ฉž๏ผšไพฎ่พฑใ€ๆฅใ‚’ใ‹ใใ“ใจใชใฉ

ใƒปstimulateใ€stiฬmjษ™leฬ€itใ€‘ไป–ๅ‹•่ฉž:ใ€€๏ฝžใฎใใฃใ‹ใ‘ใจใชใ‚‹

ๅˆบๆฟ€ใ™ใ‚‹ใ€ๅ…ƒๆฐ—ใฅใ‘ใ‚‹ใชใฉใฎๆ„ๅ‘ณใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใŒใ€ใ“ใ“ใงใฏใ€Œ๏ฝžใฎใใฃใ‹ใ‘ใจใชใ‚‹ใ€ใจใ„ใ†ๆ„ๅ‘ณใงไฝฟใฃใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚

ไพ‹๏ผ‰What he said to me stimulated our separation. ๏ผˆๅฝผใŒ่จ€ใฃใŸใ“ใจใŒๅˆฅใ‚Œใฎใใฃใ‹ใ‘ใจใชใฃใŸ๏ผ‰

ไพ‹๏ผ‰This productโ€™s advertisement will stimulate purchases from many customers.๏ผˆใ“ใฎๅ•†ๅ“ใฎๅฎฃไผใŒใ€ๅคšใใฎใŠๅฎขๆง˜ใŒ่ฒทใ†ใใฃใ‹ใ‘ใซใชใ‚Šใพใ™ใ‚ˆ๏ผ‰

ใƒปlingerใ€liฬล‹gษ™rใ€‘่‡ชๅ‹•่ฉž๏ผšๆฎ‹ๅญ˜ใ™ใ‚‹ใ€ๅพŒใซๆฎ‹ใ‚‹ใ€ใชใ‹ใชใ‹ๆถˆใˆใชใ„ใชใฉ

ใƒปget out:ใ€€็ง˜ๅฏ†ใ‚’ๆผใ‚‰ใ™ใ€€

๏ฝžget outใฎ้กž่ชž๏ฝž

ใ€Œ็ง˜ๅฏ†ใ‚’ๆผใ‚‰ใ™ใ€ใจใ„ใ†ๆ„ๅ‘ณใงไฝฟใ‚ใ‚Œใ‚‹ๅ˜่ชžใงใ™ใŒใ€

“reveal”, “open up”, “confess”, “let (somebody) in on the secret”ใซใ‚‚่จ€ใ„ๆ›ใˆใ‚‰ใ‚Œใพใ™ใ€‚

 

ไพ‹ๆ–‡๏ผš

ใ€Œ็งใฎๆ‹ใƒใƒŠใฏใฟใฃใจใ‚‚ใชใ„๏ผˆ๏ผๆฅใšใ‹ใ—ใ„๏ผ‰ใฎใงใ€่ชฐใซใ‚‚ๆ‰“ใกๆ˜Žใ‘ใ‚‰ใ‚Œใชใ„ใ€

As my romance story was embarrassing, I canโ€™t get it out to someone.

=I canโ€™t reveal it to someone.ย 

=I canโ€™t open it up to someone.ย 

=I canโ€™t confess it to someone.ย 

=I canโ€™t let someone in on the secret.

ใƒปimpart ใ€impษ‘ฬrt ใ€‘ไป–ๅ‹•่ฉž๏ผšไผๆŽˆใ™ใ‚‹ใ€€

ใƒปoutgrowใ€aฬ€utgroฬuใ€‘ไป–ๅ‹•่ฉž๏ผš๏ฝžใ‚ˆใ‚Šๅคงใใใชใ‚‹

๏ฝžใƒใ‚คใƒณใƒˆ๏ผšoutgrowใ€aฬ€utgroฬuใ€‘ไป–ๅ‹•่ฉž๏ผš๏ฝžใ‚ˆใ‚Šๅคงใใใชใ‚‹๏ฝž

 

ๅŸบๆœฌ็š„ใซใฏใ€โ€ปไบŒใคใฎใ‚‚ใฎใ‚’ๆฏ”่ผƒใ—ใฆใ€Œ๏ฝžใ‚ˆใ‚Šๅคงใใใชใ‚‹ใ€ใจไฝฟใ‚ใ‚Œใ‚‹ใ‚ˆใ†ใงใ™ใ€‚

ไพ‹๏ผ‰Children normally outgrow their clothes quite soon.ย 

็›ด่จณ๏ผšๅญไพ›ใฏ้€šๅธธใ€ใ™ใใซๆœใ‚ˆใ‚Šๅคงใใใชใ‚‹

ๆ„่จณ๏ผšๅญไพ›ใฏ้€šๅธธใ€ใ™ใใซๅคงใใใชใฃใฆๆœใŒ็€ใ‚‰ใ‚Œใชใใชใ‚‹

 

ไพ‹๏ผ‰My younger brother has already outgrown me when I was ten years old.

็งใŒ10ๆญณใฎๆ™‚ใ€ๅผŸใŒใ™ใงใซ็งใ‚ˆใ‚ŠๅคงใใใชใฃใŸใ€‚

 

ใพใŸใ€ๆฏ”ใ‚†็š„ใซใ‚‚ไฝฟใ‚ใ‚Œใ‚‹ใ‚ˆใ†ใงใ™ใ€‚ใ“ใฎใ‚จใƒƒใ‚ปใ‚คใงใฏใ€ๆฏ”ๅ–ฉ็š„่กจ็พใจใ—ใฆไฝฟใฃใฆใ„ใพใ™ใ€‚

ไพ‹๏ผ‰ He was promoted faster than anybody, so he outgrew his colleagues.

ๅฝผใฏ่ชฐใ‚ˆใ‚Šใ‚‚ๆ—ฉใๆ˜‡้€ฒใ—ใŸใฎใงใ€ๅŒๅƒšใ‚ˆใ‚Šใ‚‚ๆˆ้•ทใ—ใŸใ€‚

 

ไพ‹๏ผ‰She married a nice guy, she must have outgrown her friends.ย 

ๅฝผๅฅณใฏ็ด ๆ•ตใช็”ทๆ€งใจ็ตๅฉšใ—ใŸใฎใงใ€ๅ‹้”ใ‚ˆใ‚Š๏ผˆไบบ้–“็š„ใซ๏ผ‰ๅคงใใใชใ‚Šใใ†ใญใ€‚

 

ใ“ใฎใ‚จใƒƒใ‚ปใ‚คใงใฏใ€ใ€Œ้ŽๅŽปใฎ่‡ชๅˆ†ใ‚ˆใ‚Šๆˆ้•ทใ—ใŸใ€ใจ่จ€ใ„ใŸใ‹ใฃใŸใฎใงใ€

โ€œI have outgrown my old versionโ€ใ€€ใจ่กจ็พใ—ใพใ—ใŸใ€‚

โ€œI have outgrown the past meโ€ใ€€ใ‚‚ๅŒใ˜ๆ„ๅ‘ณใงใ™ใ€‚
ย 

ใƒปmanifestationใ€mรฆฬ€nษ™festeฬiสƒษ™nใ€‘ๅ่ฉž:ใ€€่กจๆ˜Žใ€่กจ็คบใ€€โ€ปๆ„ๆ€่กจ็คบ๏ผˆmanifestation of intention๏ผ‰

ใƒปinspirationalใ€iฬ€nspireฬiสƒษ™nษ™lใ€‘ๅฝขๅฎน่ฉž๏ผš่ชฐใ‹ใ‚’้ผ“่ˆžใ™ใ‚‹

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