(Battle against yourself: reason is obsession, solution is releasing)



In different facets of our lives, whether it be work, love, or hobbies, we might experience challenging times and feel depressed.



Whatever the cases are, even hobbies and leisure activities such as golf, cooking or playing the piano, everything falls under this theory. Meaning it’s natural for humans to go through negative situations, especially when things don’t go according to planned, no matter how much effort we put into it, or when we cut ties with people around us.



This is an unavoidable part of life. We can’t evade this and have to deal with it as it is.



All actions are accompanied by sacrifice. It may take a huge deal of sacrifice in order for us to bring our desires to reality, whether it may be in terms of work, love, family or any aspect of our life. But of course, reality is not just a walk in the park.




There are times that no matter how much time, labor, resources and money we have lost, there are still things we can’t get. But dwelling on these cases just brings us annoyance and wasted time. We tend to be fixated on others, and how they affect us.



Although I know it’s very hard to carry out, even I, myself has just been able to achieve it very recently. In conclusion, in order to overcome negative feelings such as failures, frustrations, sadness, whether it is something we have experienced in the past or something we are experiencing at the moment, we should not allow ourselves to get drowned in these thoughts.



The more we overthink, the weaker we feel at the knees. It holds us back and stops us from moving forward.



This is most true when we have a lot of idle time. But, just remember. There’s no point of overthinking and drowning yourself with these thoughts because if there is really a solution, you should have found it already in your brain with all the time you spent dwelling on it. It is important to not let yourself drown in overthinking. This is possible by making yourself useful and physically preoccupied. Keep yourself busy by doing activities such as cleaning your room, doing chores and errands or any other tasks. Don’t let yourself be idle and get stuck in thinking the same thoughts over and over again. Being preoccupied might ease your mental stress and divert your thoughts to something more positive.



Then, you might find yourself more matured.


There is one more thing I want to say. “Let it go” is one of the most effective actions. It doesn’t hurt to ask help or end something. For example, if there are tasks you can’t finish, then ask someone for help. Or if you feel that you are in an unhealthy relationship, then don’t be afraid to cut ties. Letting go of the things that bothers you helps you move forward as well.



・facet 【fˈæsɪt】 可算名詞 : (物事の)面

・whether it be A or B~:AであろうとBであろうと

・fall under (=be included in, or classified as):~に分類される


・a walk in the park:直訳は公園を歩くことですが、イディオムとして、誰でもできる簡単なこと、たいしたことのないことなどの意味で使われます。

・dwell on: あれこれ考える、深く考える等

・be fixated on~:~に執着する、~に固執する

・get drowned:溺れる、(比ゆ的に)物思いにふける

・feel weak at the knees:足がすくむ

・hold someone back:~の行動を制限する、~を遠ざける、~を前に進めなくする等

・idle 【άɪdl】形容詞:何もしていない ※idle time=空いた時間、何もしない時間

— idleは、アイドル?–

本エッセイでは“idle time”=「何もしない時間、空いた時間」と使っています。





・Idle 【άɪdl】形容詞:何もしていない、使用されていない等





・She just sits idly on the desk during work hours.


・Idle time would be a waste of our precious time, but sometimes we need it. 


・Michel Jackson was the highest-paid dancing idol in the world.


・Her dream is to become an idol.