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๐บใไบบ้้ขไฟใใคใ่จใฃใฆใใพใใไฝ่จใชไธ่จใปใปใป
Title: One Word Too Many
Have you ever experienced the situation when you say โone word too manyโ and it ended with you hurting someone’s feelings by accident?
ใไฝ่จใชไธ่จใใฃใฆใใใพใใใญใใคใใคใ่จใฃใฆใใพใฃใฆใ่ชฐใใๅทใคใใ็ต้จใฏใใใพใใใ๏ผ
As for me, the answer is yes and if you ask me if Iโll do it again, my answer is probably yes.
็งใฏใใใใพใใใใใฆใใใใใใใใฃใใ่จใฃใฆใใพใใใใงใใใฉใปใปใป
I would never deliberately hurt someone’s feeling with my words, of course. I donโt want to intentionally hurt my partner, family, friends, colleagues, etc. because they’re important to me. However, there are certain times and situations when we feel the need to speak up and say something important to those we care about. We can’t help but take the risk of potentially hurting or offending those we love even if we know it’s none of our business.
ๆฑบใใฆ่ชฐใใๅทใคใใใคใใใฏ็กใใงใใใใใกใใๆๅณใใฆใใพใใใ็นใซๅคงไบใชไบบใไพใใฐๅคซใๅฎถๆใๅ้ใๅๅใจใใซใฏใปใปใปใจใฏใใใๅคงๅใชไบบใ ใใใใใใคใใคใไธๅฟ ่ฆใชไธ่จใ่จใฃใฆใใพใๆใใใใจๆใใพใใใใใฃใใใ ใจๅใใฃใฆใใฆใใ่จใใใซใฏใใใใชใใใจใใใใใพใใใ๏ผ
Let’s look at some examples about โone word too manyโ:
ใไฝ่จใชไธ่จใใฎไพใใใใคใๆใใพใใจใ
1. I’ve witnessed a friend make a terrible mistake in hopes of getting some laughs. He didn’t either care or realize jokes about certain sensitive topics that are just not funny. He ended up offending and triggering some hostile emotions from friends and myself. When a man wants his ego stroked, he will go to great lengths to get it even if it possibly hurts people around him. This is a classic situation where some of us will say “one too many words” to him.ย
ๆๅใฎไพใฏใใใๅไบบใใพใใใใใใจ็ฌใใใใใใซใๅ่ซใฎใคใใใง่จใฃใใใจใใใพใฃใใ็ฌใใใใใใๅทใคใใ็ตๆใซใชใฃใใใจใใใใพใใ่ฉฑ้กใใใใใใปใณใทใใฃใใงใๅฝผใฏใใฎใใจใซๆฐใฅใใใใชใใฃใใใงใใใญใ็็ฑใฏใๅฝผใซใฏใ่คใใใใใใใจใใๆๆ ใใใฃใใใใชใใงใใ่ชฐใใๅทใคใใฆใใ็ฌใใๅใใใชใใใชใใงใใใไบบใชใฎใงใใใใใใใใ่ช่บซใฎใจใดใใใใไฝ่จใชใใจใ่จใฃใฆใใพใใๅ ธๅ็ใชไธใคใฎไพใงใใ
2. When a woman feels jealous of a colleagues’ performance or appearance, she may try to one-up the person and say, “one word too many,” unnecessary or cruel things which only highlights that she’s jealous. Karma never fails and these actions will eventually come back to her in the future.
ไบใค็ฎใฎไพใฏใๆๆ ใใใงใใใจใใๅฅณๆงใใ็คพๅ ใฎๅๅใฎๆ็ธพใๅฎนๅงฟใซๅซๅฆฌใใใใใฆใณใใฃใณใฐใใจใใใจใใฆใใคใใคใไธๅฟ ่ฆใชใใจใใใฃใจ่จใใจๅซๅฆฌใๅบ้ใใฆใๆฎ้ ทใชใใจใพใง่จใฃใฆใใพใใใจใงใใ็ตๅฑใใซใซใใจใใฆใใคใ่ช่บซใซ่ฟใฃใฆใใใใฎใงใใใปใปใป
3. When many couples argue, they might let their tongue get away from them and say extremely unnecessary comments toward their partner out of anger. This is a classic example of saying “one word too many.”
ๆๅพใฎไพใฏใใใๅคซๅฉฆใๆไบบๅๅฃซใฎ้ใง่ตทใใใใใงใใใใๆใใใ่ นใ็ซใฃใใใจใใใใคใใคใๅฃใใๅบใฆใใพใใไฝ่จใชไธ่จใงใใญใ
Words can be both helpful and hurtful. If we use words for our own egotistical needs or self-satisfaction without carefully considering the needs of the other person, then it becomes a weapon we use to hurt and cause injury. As a result, the reply we receive might be โmind your own business and leave me alone.โ
่จ่ใฏไบบใๅฉใใใใจใใๅทใคใใใใจใใใพใใไปไบบใๅฟ ่ฆใจใใชใใฎใซใ่ชๅใฎใจใดใ่ชๅทฑๆบ่ถณใง่จใใใจใใใใจใใใจใใใใใๅทใคใใๆญฆๅจใจๅใใฆใใพใใพใใใใใฆ็ธๆใใใฏใใใชใใซใฏ้ขไฟใชใใงใใ๏ผใใใใใๆพใฃใฆใใใฆใใ ใใใใฃ๏ผใใชใใฆ่จใใใใงใใใใใใ
Now, letโs discuss how we can stop saying โone word too many.โ
ใใฆใใฉใใใใใไฝ่จใชไธ่จใใ่จใใใซใใใฎใใ่ใใฆใฟใพใใใใใ
Those who unintentionally say “one word too many” tend to be very competitive, prone to jealousy, or hot tempered which leads them to become aggressive. Or, some people are even prone to looking down on others. These behaviors are based on our strong unconscious emotions.
ใใใจใใใชใใฎใซไฝ่จใชใใจใ่จใฃใฆใใพใไบบใซใฏใไธใฎไพใซใใใใใซใ่ชฐใใซ็ซถไบๅฟใๆใฃใฆใใใ๏ผใใฆใณใๆ่ใ่คใใใใใ๏ผใๅซๅฆฌใปๅฆฌใฟใๆใใฆใใใใๆใใฃใฝใๅพๅใใใฃใใใใใฎใงใฏใชใใงใใใใใใใจใ็ธๆใ่ฆไธใใจใใใใใใใใงใใใใใฆใใฎใใใช่กๅใซใฏใ็กๆ่ญใงใใๆๆ ใๅผทใใใๆๅๆงใๅผทใใใๅๆๅๆฅฝใๆฟใใใใจใใๆงๆ ผใซๅบใฅใใจๆใใพใใ
So, if we want to stop this behavior, itโs imperative to realize that whenever we have strong negative emotions, especially anger, jealousy and feelings of insecurities, our tongue is on the ready to say unwanted things and we must learn to guard it.
ใงใใใใใไฝ่จใชใใจใ่จใใใๆญขใใใไบบใฏใ่ฒ ใฎๆๆ ใใใๆใ็นใซใ่ น็ซใคใ๏ฝใใใใผ๏ผๅฆฌใพใใ๏ผใใจใใๆๆ ใใ่ช่บซใซ่ชไฟกใ็กใๆ๏ผ๏ผ่ชฐใใซ่คใใใใใๆ๏ผใฏใๆๆ ใๆใใใใ่จใฃใฆใใพใใปใปใปใจใใใใจใ่ช่ฆใใใใจใงใใญใใใฏใใ๏ผ่จใฃใฆใใพใใใจใ๏ผ้ฒใใใจใๅญฆใฐใชใใจใใใพใใใ
The mouth is the source of all disaster.
One more thing, these situations of exchanging harsh words will be our biggest trigger.
ๅฃใฏ็ฝใใฎๅ ใงใใ
ใใใฆใ็นใซ่จใๅใใซใชใฃใฆใใๆใๅงๅฉใใฆใใๆใใใใๅฃฒใ่จ่ใซ่ฒทใ่จ่ใใงใใคใใคใ่จใฃใฆใใพใใพใใใๆฐใไปใใพใใใ๏ผ
๏ฝๅ่ช๏ฝ
ใปoffendใษfรฉndใไปๅ่ฉ๏ผ๏ผไบบใฎ๏ผๆๆ ใๅฎณใใ
ใปstroke someoneโs ego๏ผ๏ฝใใใ ใฆใใ๏ฝใ่คใใใชใฉ
ใปgo to great (such) lengths๏ผ ๏ผ็ฎ็้ๆใฎใใใซ๏ผใๅดๅใๆใใพใๅชๅใใใใฉใใชใใจใงใใใใใฉใใช่ฆๅดใๆใใพใชใใใใใพใงใใใ็ญ
โปsuchใฏใใใใชใใใใใชใใใใใชใ็ญใซ่จณใใๅผท่ชฟใใใใใซไฝฟใใใใใใงใใๅบๆฌ็ใซsuch๏ผๅ่ฉใจใใใใใกใซใชใใพใใ็ด่จณใฏใใใชใใฎ้ทใใพใง่กใใ
ใปimperativeใษชmหper.ษ.tฬฌษชvใๅฝขๅฎน่ฉ๏ผๅฟ ้ ใชใใจใฆใ้่ฆใชใ็ญ