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๐บใไบบ้้ขไฟใไบบไปใๅใใฏใ่จใใใใใจใ6ๅ็ฎ
Title: Relationship Must Be Based On 60% Communication
Some people tend to start a conversation by saying something like โIโm saying this because I care about you very muchโ or โwe have open communication, so, Iโm saying this,โ etc. But, what do you think about these people?
ใใใใใชใใฎใใใซ่จใใใฉใใจใใใใชใใจใฏไฝใงใ่จใใไปฒใ ใใ่จใใใฉใใฃใฆๅ็ฝฎใใใใฃใฆใ่จใใใใใจใใใไบบใใใพใใใ๏ผใใใฃใฆใใฉใใใชใ
The idea, “feel free to talk about everything,โ doesn’t always apply, even among families, best friends, or married couples. No matter how close a relationship is with someone, remembering to be considerate and mindful, is of course, very important. This is mainly because every person is different.
ใใจใๅฎถๆใงใ่ฆชๅใงใๅคซๅฉฆใงใใใ่จใใใใใจใไฝใงใ่จใใไปฒใใจใใใฎใฏ้ใใจๆใใใฉใใ ใ่ฆชใใใฆใใใใฃใฑใใๆฐ้ฃใใใๆฐ้ ใใใๅฟ ่ฆใชใใจใใชใใชใใไบบใฏใฟใชๅใ ใ้ใใใ ใใใ
Even if parents say something out of care and concern for their children, what they say may sometimes be more about themselves than their children.
่ฆชใใๅญไพใฎใใใๆใฃใฆใปใปใปใใฃใฆ่จใใใใใจใ่จใฃใใจใใฆใใ่ชๅใฎใใใ ใฃใฆใใใ
All the more among couples and friends.
ๆไบบใๅ้ใชใใชใใใใ
Whether our talking with family, friends or couples, appropriate communication should always be at 60%. Meaning, if we have 10 things we want to say, we must not say 10 out of 10; just withhold some things and voice only 6 out of the 10 things on our mind.
ไบบไปใๅใใฏๅฎถๆใงใๅ้ใงใๆไบบใงใใฃใฆใใ60๏ผ ็จๅบฆใใกใใใฉใใใ่จใใใใใจใ10ๅใใฃใใจใใใใใใฎไธญใฎ6ๅใใใใงใใใ4ๅใใใใฏๅฟใซใใพใใพใใใ
Politeness is not only for strangers. More importantly, it should be manifested with friends and loved ones.
ใ็คผๅใใฏไปไบบใฎใใใ ใใซใใใใฎใงใฏใชใใฆใใใใใๅ้ใๆใใไบบ้ใซ็คบใใใจใฎๆนใใใฃใจๅคงไบใใใใใชใใ
Politeness and good manners should include a “must not say to them” attitude.
ใ่จใฃใฆใฏใใใชใใใจใฏใ่จใใชใใใจใใ่ก็บใใ็คผๅใงใใใจใใฑใใใงใใใใ
Although being frank has its advantages, there are times when we must not say everything we think and keep things to ourselves since we know we shouldn’t voice all of our thoughts.ย
ใใกใใใใๆฐ่ปฝใซ่ฉฑใใใใจใใใใจใฏ่ฏใใใใใใชใใใงใๆใซใฏใใใใใฏใ่จใใชใๆนใใใใใจใใใใจใใใใใญ๏ผใ
Thoughtful consideration is demonstrated by simple acts of self-restraint, such as not doing what our loved ones hate and not saying things we know they don’t want to hear. These “don’t do” behaviors lead to building up a better relationship of trust and respect.
ใ็ธๆใๅซใใใใจใฏใใใใชใใใจใใ็ธๆใ่ใใใใชใใใจใฏใ่จใใชใใใจใใฃใใใใชใใกใใฃใจใใใใใใชใใ่ชๅถใใใๆใใใใใจใใใใฎใใใใใใใไบใไฟก้ ผใๅฐๆฌใงใใ้ขไฟใ็ฏใใใใฎใ ใจๆใใ
๏ฝๅ่ช๏ฝ
ใปopen communication๏ผไฝใงใ่จใๅใใไผ่ฉฑใๅฟใ้ใใไผ่ฉฑใชใฉ
ใปout of๏ผโ ๏ฝใฎใใใโกใใๆฐใฎไธญใใ
โ ๏ผๅๅ ๏ผ๏ฝใฎใใใ๏ฝใใ๏ผ ๏ผไธ่จใจใใปใคใใๆ็ฒ๏ผEven if parents say something out of care and concern for their children. ่ฆชใใๅญไพใๆใฃใฆ๏ผ๏ผๅญไพใฎใใ๏ผใใฃใฆ่จใใใใใจใ่จใฃใใจใใฆใใ่ชๅใฎใใใ ใฃใฆใใใ
โกใใๆฐใฎไธญใใ๏ผ ๏ผไธ่จใจใใปใคใใๆ็ฒ๏ผif you have 10 things you want to say, you must not say 10 out of 10. ่จใใใใใจใ10ๅใใฃใใจใใใใ10ๅใฎใใก๏ผใฎไธญใใ๏ผ6ๅใใใใงใใใ
โป่ฉณใใใฏใไธ่จใใผใธใใฉใใใ่ฆงใใ ใใใญใ ใตใคใ๏ผใๅ่ชใ[out of] ใฎไฝฟใๆนใใใใใ | English & Chinese Lab (english-chinese-lab.com) |
ใปall the more๏ผใชใใใใใพใใพใ๏ฝ
ใปwithholdใwษชฮธhรณสldใไปๅ่ฉ๏ผไธใใชใใงใใใๅทฎใๆงใใใชใฉ
ใปmanifest ใmรฆฬnษfeฬstใไปๅ่ฉ๏ผ ใ๏ฝใใๆใใใซใใใๆๆ ใ่กจใ็ญ
ใปself-restraint๏ผ่ชๅถใใปใซใใณใณใใญใผใซใ
— ๅฏ่ฉonlyใจjustใฎ่จใๆใใjustใฎไฝฟใๆน–
ไธ่จใจใใปใคไธญใซใใใPoliteness is not only for strangersใ๏ผใ็คผๅใใฏไปไบบใฎใใใ ใใซใใใใฎใงใฏใชใ๏ผใๅผ็จใใพใใใ ใใใ “Politeness is not just for strangers”ใจใ่จใๆใใใใจใใงใใพใใ
justใซใonlyใจๅใใใ๏ฝใ ใใใจใใๆๅณใใใใใใงใใ
ใใใใใjustใใฏไปใซใใใใใๆๅณใใใใพใใฎใงใๅฐใjustใฎไปใฎๆๅณใ็ดนไปใใพใใๆฅๆฌ่ชใง่ฆใใใใใ่ฑ่ชใฎ้ก็พฉ่ชใๅ่ใซใใๆนใๅใใใใใใใใใใพใใใ
๏ผ๏ผๅฏ่ฉ๏ผใพใใซใใกใใใฉ ๏ผใ้ก่ชใexactly, precisely, absolutely, completely, totally, entirely ไพๆ๏ผthat’s just what I need.ใใใใฏใพใใซๅฟ ่ฆใจใใฆใใใใฎใงใใ
2. ๅฏ่ฉ๏ผใใฃใไป๏ฝใใใฐใใ ๏ผใ้ก่ชใvery recently, a moment ago, a second ago, a short time ago, not long ago ไพๆ๏ผI’ve just seen the local paper.ใใใฃใไปๆฐ่ใ่ชญใใ ใฐใใใงใใ โป้ๅปๅฝขใๅฎไบๅฝขใจใจใใซไฝฟใใใพใใ
3. ๅฏ่ฉ๏ผ๏ฝใ ใใๅใซ๏ฝ ๏ผใ้ก่ชใonly, merely, simply, nothing but, no more than, at best, at most ไพๆ๏ผThey were just interested in making money.ใๅฝผใใฏใ้ๅฒใใ ใ่ๅณใใใใ
4. ๅฏ่ฉ๏ผๆฌๅฝใซ ๏ผใ้ก่ชใreally, absolutely, completely, entirely, totally ไพๆ๏ผThey’re just great”ใๅฝผใใฏๆฌๅฝใซใใใใ
5. ๅฏ่ฉ๏ผๅฃ่ช็ใงใๅๆใฎๆๅณใงไฝฟใใใใใพใฃใใใ ใใใใๆฌๅฝใ ใใใใใใฎ้ใใ ใใฎใใใชใใฅใขใณในใงไฝฟใใใพใใ ไพๆ๏ผโSimon really messed things up.โ โDidn’t he just?โ ใใตใคใขใณใฎใใใงใๅฐ็กใใ ใใใๆฌๅฝใซ๏ผใ โปไพๆใฏๅ จๆใใใDidn’t he just?ใใงใใใไผ่ฉฑใฎๅ ๅฎนใซใใฃใฆใฏ Isn’t it just? Aren’t they just? Didn’t she just? ใชใฉใฎใใใซไฝฟใใพใใ |